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Meditations
Marcus Aurelius
5/5
“In writing and reading you must learn before you teach.”
My read
Why I picked this up
I was curious about Stoicism. No dramatic reason.
What it teaches
Marcus wrote this for himself, not for readers. He kept repeating the same ideas across 12 books, not because he forgot, but because the repetition was the practice. What stuck with me: you can't be angry at someone who doesn't understand something you haven't explained clearly. His line is roughly "if he can't follow me, that's on me to explain better." I started applying that immediately.
What I decided
I stopped caring about being right in arguments. I'm not looking for reasons that justify what I already think, I'm looking for what's true. Getting caught being wrong doesn't bother me. Changing my position when I'm shown something better is the point.
Implementation
Noticed the pattern "I'll be honest with you..." and stopped saying it. You should always be honest, flagging it as a special occasion is its own kind of dishonesty. I also dropped blaming circumstances for things I could control, and started treating meditation as a daily practice rather than something to do when things go sideways.
What changed
I watch behavior in people around me more clearly now, including my own, and I don't conflate the two. I can see something in someone else and recognise it without needing to call it out. I correct mine and move on.
Critical reflection
Read it once and you'll underline things. Read it again and you'll find different ones. One pass isn't enough, the same sentence lands differently depending on where you are when you read it.